What Do You Value Most In Other People?

arina its quite well witten
personally i dont have many friends but few deep close ones
what i value most about them is that they are sensative to other people's griefs and they take risks to achieve their goals i mean this really taught me a lesson of lifetime that if u wanna achieve big you have to think big and take risks and step out of what u are comfortable in . i also value this thing very much that they understand and are ready and keen to help selflessly without any vested interests

You are 100% right! It is difficult to achieve anything significant in life if you are not ready to take risks and set goals that are slightly out of your reach. You are very fortunate to have friends who inspire you and urge you to dream big. I'm curious to know – are there any specific steps that you take to push yourself out of the comfort zone?

I value when someone has an open mind and is non-judgmental. I don't like the honesty trait, isn't that funny? But the people that I know that are honest, use no tact or discretion and end up hurting people's feelings with their forthrightness. It seems as though because they possess that trait, it gives them the license to offend others. I feel the most important trait a person can have is to take the time to learn about someone before drawing any conclusions or passing judgment. So often, after we have learned something about someone we can say, “oh, now I know why they act/think/respond that way.” But it takes time and effort to know what lies within the pages of someone's life.

i value for honesty.

Qualities in others I truly appreciate are LOYALTY, RESPECT and COMPASSION probably because these are my strong qualities.

I believe the most valuable attributes is integrity and like what Tghee said “compassion”. In my books, if you have both, you are golden.

i was in a negative environment which was not making me any productive . i mean i was in company of people who used to consider themselves as failures and always finding faults in others and everything . it would trigger very negative emotions in me too . one day decided to leave it . a thought at that time came to my mind that i am amongst people who are like me means as i thought at that time weak and if i will go out i cannot survive . i finally i decided against this stupid thought and left that peer and thought that it better to be alone than with neagative people who pull us down
actually nowadays i am finding myself doing things i didnt use to do earlier
as i mentioned i am introvert and dont make friends to my own surprise nowadays i am making new friends as i earlier used to think this was something i couldnt do
Also i nowadaysfix a little goal for myself everyday and by all means achieve it and celebratre afterwards
earlier i used to stress out easily nowadays i try to tackle my problems rather than just self pitying which had made me quite a negative person
nowadays i notice little things like the beautiful sunset sunrise dew drops flowers moon clouds raindrops and i am in general a happy person and getting better day by day

Thank you for one more of your profound answers, Countryporch02. The type of honesty that you talk about is what I called “radical honesty” in my post. Sometimes there is a fine line indeed between being honest with people and offending them. Even the right words said in the wrong way at the wrong time will harm a person a lot more them helping him/her. The sages of the ancient world had one golden rule when it came to honesty, before saying something to another person, they asked themselves “What is my purpose of saying these words?” and “Is the person ready to hear them?”
This is a great practice we can adopt as well…

Thank you for your answer, Tghee. It is an interesting observation that we appreciate those qualities in others that we think we posses, and dislike the qualities that we are afraid of having. What are your thoughts?

Thank you for your sharing. Changes that you made in your life are truly impressive! And they started with one decision – to stop hanging out with negative and judgmental people, who were dragging you down with them. It is mind-blowing how much people that we are around influence our own level of self-confidence, our beliefs and behavior.
I'm happy that you had enough courage and emotional strength to take that first step and enough perseverance to walk the rest of the way.

Interesting blog post, Arina, and a great idea to think of the qualities we value most in others (and thus what that means about ourselves). My answer is a general one, though. What I value most in other people is the lessons that they bring me! (They may recognise a talent in me that I ignore. They may have a fault of mine that I abhor. They may have a quality that I don't possess (e.g. being the life and soul of the party)… but each person on this planet can teach me something…

The quality I value most is integrity. They allow no one to control or walk all over them and never give up. Nothing can get in their way unless they allow it. Waking up everyday knowing that they are somebody, they are human. When they fail at something they try again and again until they succeed.
Thanks, ): o ) Beth

Compassion, Empathy, and Kindness. I think the world needs more people with these traits.

Be Well.
Paul.
http://www.AllAboutGratitude.com

Kindness was the first to come to mind, followed by compassion and integrity. I love how countryporch02 brought on the thought of honesty (radical) and how it can cause people to have forthrightness and pass judgement…almost like a “know it all” type of person! I live with this type and there IS a fine line there! We do need more people in the world with these postive traits and we need to be open-minded to learn lessons from others. Great reminder, Arina, before we speak: “What is my purpose of saying these words?” and “Is the person ready to hear them?” My personal saying is to “treat others how you care to be treated”

The quality I value the most is…quiet smartness. I value the person who is naturally smart-who is quiet enough to gather information and is a listener before a speaker.