“Most people think resources or the lack thereof hold them back. In fact it is not lack of resources but rather lack of resourcefulness that truly prevents people from achieving their dreams” -Anthony Robbins
Usually when we do not reach our goals there are several key factors that we name to explain our “failures”: lack of money, lack of experience, lack of time, lack of necessary technology, and lack of support. This is true. Many of us may lack all these things, BUT! There is a “but”…
We can acquire anything we want, given a little bit of creativity and determination.
If you think about it, there is plenty of money to go around. Ask Bill Gates if you have doubts about it. He will tell you.
There is also no such thing as lack of time. We have all been given the same number of hours a day. And it is up to us to decide how to use these 24 hours. Take Barak Obama, for example. He is a very busy person. There is no doubt about it. And, yet, he finds the time to exercise regularly. After this it becomes almost embarrassing to use lack of time as an excuse to postpone our health goals. Because let’s face it, neither of us can claim that we are busier or have more important tasks on our to-do list than the president of the United States.
We may believe that we lack resources, but I tend to agree with Antony Robbins -lack of resources is not a defining factor to whether or not we will accomplish anything in life. The defining factor is our resourcefulness. If you are creative, determined and resourceful enough, you will find a way to achieve your goals no matter what.
However, there are several obstacles that can stop us from being resourceful:
Fear’s main function is to protect us from harm and help to escape dangerous situations. However, this protection mechanism that helped our ancestors to survive in the past has become one of the main blocks to resourcefulness for most of us.
• Every time we have doubts about starting our own business or learning a new skill, because it may prove not to be a worthy investment, we act out of fear.
• Every time we turn down a new opportunity, because there is some risk involved, we act out of fear.
• Every time we do not ask for help, because we are afraid to look “weak”, “foolish” or “inadequate”, we act out of fear.
I wish I could tell you that there is a hidden “fear switch” that you can turn on and off whenever you wish.
Unfortunately, there is only one effective method to overcome our fears – do more of what we fear.
You might have started something in the past and it did not work out the way you initially planned. This happens to the best of us. Every person has their own personal baggage of failures, mistakes and set-backs. But it is not a good enough reason to stop trying!
2. Social conditioning.
It is hard to be resourceful and believe that everything is possible, when we are constantly told what we can or cannot do, when we are politely pointed out our shortcomings and past failures, or when we are taught that success is for the very few, who have been born under a lucky star, or more specifically into a wealthy family. All this negative social conditioning creates our inner blocks that hold us back, even when we could have been moving forward.
Do not accept blindly everything that you are told. There is a huge difference between constructive feedback and negative conditioning. The first one motivates you into improving something about yourself or your life. The second one makes you feel unworthy, helpless and inadequate.
3. Lack of self-confidence.
There are plenty of resources up there. The problem is that many people do not believe that they deserve them. They dream about what they love to do, but when it comes to planning or going after those dreams, they do not even bother. A little voice inside of them says “There is no way YOU can do it”. You might be telling yourself that you do not deserve success, because you lack talent, self-confidence, education or will power.
But the truth is that success is not some kind of reward given for being a “perfect son/daughter”, an “A” student or “employee of the month”. Success is a result of aligning your passion, energy and your goals together. It starts with finding out what you want to do and gathering courage to go after your dreams.
4. Wrong focus.
Our mind does not perceive reality the way it is. It focuses on whatever it is told to focus on. If you concentrate on what you lack or on your inability to achieve your goals, your mind will see obstacles and “bad signs” everywhere. Just as it will become oblivious to any great ideas, opportunities and solutions.
The key to becoming resourceful is shifting your focus from what you lack, to where and how you can get it. Your mind is naturally hard-wired to look for solutions. It stops only when you declare, “It’s over! There is nothing I can do about it!”
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by problems, shift your attention in a more positive direction by asking yourself:
- “ What am I going to focus on?”,
- “What I can do about the situation?”
- “What are my options?” – believe me there is always more than one way to resolve any situation.
I initially wanted to say procrastination, but then I thought, “Who am I kidding?!”. Procrastination is when you prefer to leave an unpleasant task for later, laziness, on the other hand, is when you do not feel like doing it all together. Many goals sound very appealing when you write them down on a piece of paper, but when it comes to adjusting your schedule, changing your habits, taking consistent action to accomplish those goals, they suddenly lose half of their appeal. The whole work thingy just seems too hard. It is much easier to think of a valid reason why you cannot do it.
Be honest with yourself! If your heart is not fully into the goal, maybe you should not be pursuing it all together? Or maybe you should reconsider your priorities?
6. Lack of knowledge.
If you do not know where to start, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless. Lack of knowledge is a serious obstacle to being resourceful, simply because you might not know where to look for information that you lack. But fortunately, in our age of technology this problem is relatively easy to fix. That is what the internet is for! Start with the basics. And take your time.
Friedrich Nietzsche once said, “He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand and walk and run and climb and dance; one cannot fly into flying.” Similar, no matter how talented or incredible you are, you cannot become a pro, without starting at the beginner’s level first.
7. Reluctance to change.
This is where many people hit a snag. They want something, but do not want to change anything to get it. And while most of us have heard the phrase, “if you do what you’ve always done, you get what you’ve always gotten”, the security of your familiar comfort zone still looks better than uncertainty. However, when our comfort level drops below a certain point (e.g. we get in a huge fight with our boss or we think that there could be a possibility that we will lose our job), we start to demonstrate miracles of creativity and determination to get back to where we were.
Now the real question is how do you push yourself into change when things are going relatively well? How do you become resourceful, when there is no urgency to pursue your goals?
The best way to do it is to become really uncomfortable in your comfort zone. Of course, it is important to be grateful for everything we already have, but at the same time it is also crucial to strive to improve ourselves, learn new lessons and create new experiences.
After all this is why we were born here and this is why we are still alive.