Do you like the sound of your own voice? Most people don’t. When they hear their voice registered, the first thought that pops into their mind is, “Do I really sound like THAT when I talk?”
We are not used to hearing our voice the way the rest of the world does, but this does not mean that we should diminish its importance.
Just like your fingerprints or your DNA, your voice is unique and it says a lot about you and your personality.
It is enough for people to hear your voice on the phone to make quite a few very important (and often very accurate) assumptions about you – including your age, education, intelligence, maturity, health, background, body build, attitude and even your emotional state.
A few years ago an experiment made in this area showed that people literally “hear” personality in the voices of others and it biases their opinions about everything from the person’s credibility, to the level of confidence, to sexual appeal.
In fact, the science behind our tone of voice is so vast that there is a whole area of non-verbal communication, called Paralanguage.
Paralanguage studies speech qualities such as its pitch (highness or lowness of voice), pace (speed), volume (loudness) and, in some cases, enunciation.
How can knowledge about Paralanguage help you in your day-to-day communication?
Potentially, your voice has the power to engage, charm, encourage, motivate, persuade, or gain people’s attention and trust. Just as, if used incorrectly, it can alter the meaning of your message and give people the wrong impression about your true personality, making you sound unprofessional, indecisive or, vice versa, pushy and demanding.
Take a moment to learn what your voice says about you and what you can do to make the best impression in every conversation.
3 Elements of Paralanguage