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Our life is a combination of past experiences, future goals and expectations, current struggles and achievements. The way we perceive it highly depends on our perspective. However, our self-perception is often distorted..

The Hottest Tip On How To Increase Your Motivation

Our life is a combination of past experiences, future goals and expectations, current struggles and achievements. The way we perceive it highly depends on our perspective. However, our self-perception is often distorted..Our life is a combination of past experiences, future goals and expectations, current struggles and achievements. The way we perceive it highly depends on our perspective. However, our self-perception is often distorted by:

Negative self-beliefs. It may sound strange, but negative self-beliefs are often developed to protect the true self from setbacks and disappointments. A person focuses on the worst possible outcome and, therefore, does not feel too bad when they are faced with another failure. Negative beliefs about personal performance soon become self-fulfilling prophecies. Of course in this case motivation can not be high, because “what’s the point of trying if it won’t work anyway.”

Perfectionism. The disposition of thinking that anything less than perfect is unacceptable, can really distort a person’s self-perception. People prone to perfectionism are often far more critical of themselves than necessary. They set unrealistic standards for themselves and beat themselves up later for every little mistake and imperfection in their work.

“All or noting” thinking. Our mind naturally divides everything into two opposite categories, “good – bad”, “healthy – unhealthy”, “happy-sad”, “interesting-boring” and so on. There is nothing wrong with this, UNTILL we start to see the world in ‘black and white” categories completely ignoring all the shades of gray in the middle. All-or nothing words like ‘always’, ‘never’, ‘every’, ‘nothing’ are very dangerous for our motivation and self-esteem, because they rarely describe the real situation. Things are not always ‘completely awful’ or ‘absolutely wonderful’ most of the times they are simply ‘ok’.

Blind optimism. Hoping that everything works out for the best is a good quality. Believing that everything will work out for the best without any effort or change on our part is another thing. Blind optimism, just like jaded pessimism makes us short-sighted to any possibility or problem that comes our way.

Strong emotions. Our emotions strongly influence our mood and perception of reality. If you have just scored low in a performance test, it will negatively affect your self-evaluation, motivation, productivity and level of optimism. Just as getting the highest score can make you feel over-confident and daring.

The lastest research has shown that changing our perspective from personal “I” to impersonal “he/she” helps to eliminate self-observation biases and noticeably increase our motivation. During the experiment participant were asked to remember how much change or personal growth they had experienced since a particular event.

Those who recalled this event from the third person perspective recalled more positive changes and personal achievements than those who remembered it from the first person. But that is not all!

Recalling an event from the third person’s perspective boosts our motivation, increases our level of satisfaction with our achievements and makes us act out more positive behavioral changes.

The explanation for this phenomenon is simple. When we describe particular event from the third person’s perspective, we instantly become more impartial in our judgments and opinions.

Think about it. If your friend gets a promotion, you will probably say something like: “I’m so happy for you. You are definitely the best person for the job. They are lucky to have you!” Now imagine that you have been promoted. Would you say to yourself, “I’m so happy for me! I am definitely the best person for the job! They are lucky to have me”. Probably not… It just sounds too arrogant and vain. Most of us are not used to praising ourselves, but we find it exceptionally easy to bring ourselves down even for tiny mistakes. This is not the way to go!

We all know that we should treat others the way we want to be treated ourselves.

What we forget is to treat ourselves the way we treat others.

So whenever you are evaluating the progress that you have made, change your perspective from “I” to “he”/”she” and then marvel a little at your achievements! 🙂

18 Comments
  • may
    June 2, 2009 at 7:19 pm

    I just want to say That I love all your articles, I read all of them very carfully
    thank you

  • Donald Bradley
    June 3, 2009 at 12:03 am

    Thanks so much for the update.I find your articles very informative and easy to understand. The information is helpful at work and home.

  • savita
    June 3, 2009 at 4:13 am

    wow! that is really very helpful article. I liked it very much and it really boosted my confidence level especially after reading that “we forget to treat ourselves the way we treat others”. great! hats off!

  • Alape Abdulhakeem
    June 3, 2009 at 4:36 am

    Dear Arina

    Thank you for your update. Honestly, before now my self-perception is distorted by blind optimism and it never occured to me that this lowered my morale by hindering my self actualisation.

    Having gone through this piece, I am grateful, atleast, for waking me up from my slumber.

    Please accept my warmest assurances always.

  • Sam
    June 9, 2009 at 1:04 pm

    Awesome perspective on some of the keys to success. Whats more interesting about your observation is how simple and re-current these keys are in our everyday life and so easy to be ignored. What all of us need to remember is that the consistent practice of the above suggestions is what brings change. Being aware of them and not doing anything won’t bring any results. consistency is key because practice makes perfect. Thank you for bringing this up and I am considering using some of your suggestion to teach a group of youths at my church.

    Way to go gal.

  • shashank bhardwaj
    June 10, 2009 at 2:19 am

    Dear Arina

    your artcles are woderful it helps me to update me professionally as well as personally.

  • savita
    June 10, 2009 at 6:04 am

    Hey Arina, your articles are surely very motivating and I enjoy reading them all. The only thing I did not like is the new or changed “look” of your blog. It is very dull and the text, being grey in colour, is difficult to read. Your earlier blog “look” with green and black was really good. See if you can change text to black and make the page more bright.

    Looking forward to reading new article in new “look”.
    Thanks.

    savita

  • Tracy
    June 11, 2009 at 2:42 am

    I am currently about to sit an exam in psychology, and I have been doing exactly what you say with regards critical self evaluation, and negative thoughts on my past assignment scores, telling myself I won’t be able to pass the exam, and it has hindered my revision because I don’t feel it’s really worth it. There have been other people on the course who have achieved lower grades than me at times, yet still I think of them as the type of people who will ‘walk’ the exam, whilst I will be lucky to even scrape through. I am now going to try a fresh way of looking at myself and my past performance. Thank you Arina, you’re enspiring!

  • Helia Pino
    June 11, 2009 at 3:56 pm

    I really like to read this kind of article, this is first time I read about so I would like continuing reading your article. Some time we feel that we do need to read something can help to feeling better.

  • S.P Ohemu
    June 12, 2009 at 7:39 am

    Your article has become my daily ‘tonic’ as an insurance sales professional and a sales coach. Please I want to get more and more them.

  • yuriko
    June 12, 2009 at 1:00 pm

    Arina, Thank you for your posts and your daily quotes! I love them and I hope to be more optimistic! Okay.. I know I’ll be more optimistic! I need to be more emphatic, right? 🙂 Or else my own subconscious won’t realize it…. 🙂

  • Negero
    June 13, 2009 at 5:38 am

    I am really amazed by the changes I have since I started reading these wonderful article. It is really motivational. Now I am watching my destiny in not far distant.

  • Jay Couture
    June 14, 2009 at 6:57 am

    Arina, great stuff…It is surprising how simple some things are when broken down into realistic pieces for us to understand. Thanks!

  • Posh
    June 16, 2009 at 6:23 am

    Arina, Love your blog and website. Easy to follow, shared the site and blog with my friend. We will be following your advice. Will keep you updated.
    Thanks so much for careing.

    XOXO
    Posh

  • surendra
    June 23, 2009 at 5:10 am

    fine i aleready in this track 🙂

  • myra
    June 27, 2009 at 1:59 pm

    dear arina,
    your articles r fabulous,thnks 4 ur posts n daily quotes,
    i really like all,quiet motivational…great going keep
    it up..thnks..

  • WASIM
    July 17, 2009 at 12:30 am

    dear arina,
    your articles r mindblowing, tremendous fabuolus ,thnks 4 ur posts n dail quotes, i really like ur quot and website.

    thanks for this tremendous effort
    wasim

  • WASIM
    July 17, 2009 at 12:32 am

    i want to acheive a high confidence level kindly give some tips for it

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