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The Hidden Psychology behind “Poor” People’s Mindset

Have you noticed how some people seem to have everything they need to be successful: right knowledge, good looks, family connections and starting capital and yet they fail miserably? While others who do not seem to be that smart or that outgoing become successful against all the odds? The true reason behind success and material wealth is not the resources that you have; it is the way you think, talk and act!
Usually after talking with a person for 15 minutes you can already tell if they will achieve the great heights of turning money-making into a never-ending struggle.
Poor people generally talk about:
• Their problems and all the injustices ever done to them
• Discuss banal reality shows, latest “news” and negative events that they have no control over
• Gossip about other people – what is wrong with them
• Blame everything and everyone for their misfortunes
• Complain about their lazy spouses, ungrateful kids, stupid boss, and controlling parents
• Have strong prejudices against other social groups (usually this includes wealthier and more successful people, people of other nationalities and other religions)
• Brag about all the good things that they have ever done for someone else
• Invest in things that bring instant gratification, without thinking about the consequences.
Wealthy or wealthy-to-be people talk about:
• New theories and skills that they are learning
• Investment ideas and strategies
• People who inspire and guide them
• Positive events that have happened in their life
• Activities and things that motivate them
• Their long-term goals
Poor people believe that:
• Having a lot of money will make them happy
• Wealthy people have more money, and therefore they must share that money with the less fortunate – THEM!
• Success is a natural result of “getting lucky”, not working hard towards your dreams
• Self-help programs and books are just rip offs, because if someone wants to help you, they should give you all the information for free. (But if information is free, it is perceived as not valuable enough).
• Quick-fix solutions are the best ones!
• They already “have it all figured out” and their opinion is the only right one.
Wealthy people believe that:
• Creating strong relationships will make them happy
• Money is just a tool to achieve higher goals and help others in need
• Wealth is a result of constant self-improvement and hard work
• Investments in education and knowledge always pay off
• Quick-fix solutions do not bring long-lasting results.
• They do not know everything and are opened to new ideas, suggestions and different opinions
Poor people:
• Are careless with their money and spend it on things that make them feel important or that bring immediate satisfaction (new car, huge satellite dish, alcohol, cigarettes, and entertainment)
• Rely on their credit card in cases of emergency
• Do not take good care of their health (eat junk food, do not exercise, do nothing about changing bad habits)
• Spend most of their free time watching TV
• Passively react to everything that happens in their life
• View obstacles as something that are beyond their control
• Perceive failure as evidence of their inadequacy and “bad luck”
• Get an adrenaline rush out of watching horror movies and doing “stupid” things
• Are very creative when it comes to making up excuses
• Respond aggressively to any type of critique
Wealthy people:
• Invest money in assets that over time increase in value
• Put aside a certain amount of money on a monthly basis in order not to rely on credit cards in cases of emergency
• Take good care of their health (eat organic food, exercise regularly, make regular medical check-ups)
• Spend their free time doing something fun with their family or reading books
• Take pro-active steps to make their life better in the future
• Perceive failure as an opportunity to learn valuable lessons and test their ideas
• Get an adrenaline rush out of starting new projects and applying new concepts
• Are very creative when it comes to finding solutions to the problems that they are facing
• View critique as a feedback
Of course, you can say that wealthy people do all these things, because they ALREADY have money. Therefore, they can afford to eat better food,  invest in educating themselves and put money away for the rainy day, while “poor” poor people are forced to eat fast food, because it is cheap, and rely on a credit card to make payments, because they simply do not have any savings. Maybe it is true. But maybe it is just another excuse…
It seems to me that it is more probable that wealth is a result of the right mindset, proactive thinking and long-term planning. Not that proactive thinking and long-term planning is a result of wealth.
What do you think? :)

poor people mentality 300x290 The Hidden Psychology behind “Poor” People’s MindsetHave you noticed how some people seem to have everything they need to be successful: right knowledge, good looks, family connections and starting capital and yet they fail miserably? While others who do not seem to be that smart or that outgoing become successful against all the odds? The true reason behind success and material wealth is not the resources that you have; it is the way you think, talk and act!

Usually after talking with a person for 15 minutes you can already tell if they will achieve the great heights of turning money-making into a never-ending struggle.

Poor people generally talk about:

  • Their problems and all the injustices ever done to them
  • Discuss banal reality shows, latest “news” and negative events that they have no control over
  • Gossip about other people – what is wrong with them
  • Blame everything and everyone for their misfortunes
  • Complain about their lazy spouses, ungrateful kids, stupid boss, and controlling parents
  • Have strong prejudices against other social groups (usually this includes wealthier and more successful people, people of other nationalities and other religions)
  • Brag about all the good things that they have ever done for someone else
  • Invest in things that bring instant gratification, without thinking about the consequences.

Wealthy or wealthy-to-be people talk about:

  • New theories and skills that they are learning
  • Investment ideas and strategies
  • People who inspire and guide them
  • Positive events that have happened in their life
  • Activities and things that motivate them
  • Their long-term goals

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The Three Biggest Investments that All Wealthy People Make

Fact #1: 497 people (approximately 0.000008% of the world’s population) control $3.5 trillion (over 7% of world GDP).
Fact #2: 99% of the US population is not part of the “investing class”
Fact #3: At the end of 2008 the average credit card debt for households was $10,679. And it continues to grow.
You can consider wealthy people evil and greedy or you can view them as a group of people who donate millions of dollars to charity. You can envy them or you can learn from them. You can despise them for their success or admire them for their achievements. That is up to you!
But whatever your perception and beliefs about rich people are, you cannot deny one thing – they are good at keeping and multiplying their wealth.
So what do they do differently from the rest of the population?
What are their best kept secrets?
1. Wealthy people invest money instead of spending it.
In business investing money means making a purchase of value with the expectation of favorable future returns. To put it simply, you use money to make more money. I looked up the term “spending money” in a dictionary and it actually means “using money for small current or incidental expenses”.
Spending money was supposed to be something that we do occasionally when you feel particularly impulsive. Most of us, however, have got it other way around. We spend 20 times more than we invest. And this is the main reason, why we are still not rich.
By “investing money” I do not mean “buying stocks” and “becoming a shareholder”. Anything you buy can be viewed as an investment or spending. The rules are simple- if a product loses its value in the long term – than it is a bad investment decision. If you get more value out of it – you are being smart with your money.
This concept is easier than it seems. Let’s take food, for example. If you eat junk food or processed food for dinner this will lower your energy levels, while providing very little or no nutrient value for your body.
Conclusion? You are spending your money on something that is bad for your health and your physique. Vice versa, home-cooked organic food is an investment that you make, by helping to keep your body strong and healthy.
Now let’s talk about cars. You are probably aware that a new car loses one third of its price the second you drive out of the dealership. Is it a good investment? Probably not… This is why most self-made millionaires prefer used reliable cars to a shiny new Jaguar.
Starting from now before reaching for your wallet, take a second to reflect if what you are about to buy is an investment or a waste of your hard-earned money.
2. Wealthy people invest in themselves. Wealthy people realize that you can always make more money if you have the knowledge about how to do it and the right set of skills. This is why they willingly spend about 20% of their income on self-education and personal development. They are the ones that read books, attend seminars and actively search for ‘mentors’.
If you want to be wealthy, you have to understand that knowledge and experience are your most valuable assets. It is the reason why professionals get paid 10 times more than college graduates do.
Think of what skills you would like to improve? What inner blocks and negative beliefs about money prevent you from being successful? What are your strengths that you would like to develop further?
3. Wealthy people invest in relationships. People who have money are often accused of having the “right connections”. It is viewed by many as a negative thing. Similar to a mafia clan, that spins its web around poor law-abiding citizens and indulges in money laundering and other illegal machinations.
Wealthy people have “connections” not because they were born into influential families, but because they take time to establish these relationships. Look at the best-sellers in self-help area, like “Think and grow rich” by Napoleon Hill, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, ” Pathways to Success – In Your Personal and Private Lives” by Dale Carnegie, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey, “Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!” by Anthony Robbins – all of them were written by highly successful and self-made millionaires. They all talk about same things: the importance of positive thinking, expressing of gratitude, compassion, and giving.
Relationships in general, not just business relationships, are one of your strongest assets. Your family and friends will support you through difficult times. Your mentors will give you good advice when you most need it. Your co-workers help you out with a project and make your day more enjoyable. Your business partners and your customers will help you to increase your income and make money.
Invest your time and effort in creating good relationships with people. It is easy.
Here is a tip: “Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.”  - Jesus (from Luke 6:31).

invest money 300x198 The Three Biggest Investments that All Wealthy People MakeFact #1: 497 people (approximately 0.000008% of the world’s population) control $3.5 trillion (over 7% of world GDP).

Fact #2: 99% of the US population is NOT part of the “investing class”

Fact #3: At the end of 2008 the average credit card debt for households was $10,679. And it continues to grow.

You can consider wealthy people evil and greedy or you can view them as a group of people who donate millions of dollars to charity. You can envy them or you can learn from them. You can despise them for their success or admire them for their achievements. That is up to you!

But whatever your perception and beliefs about rich people are, you cannot deny one thing – they are good at keeping and multiplying their wealth.

So what do they do differently from the rest of the population?

What are their best kept secrets?

1. Wealthy people invest money instead of spending it.

In business investing money means making a purchase of value with the expectation of favorable future returns. To put it simply, you use money to make more money. I looked up the term “spending money” in a dictionary and it actually means “using money for small current or incidental expenses”.

Spending money was supposed to be something that we do occasionally when you feel particularly impulsive. Most of us, however, have got it other way around. We spend 20 times more than we invest. And this is the main reason, why we are still not rich.

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The Tough Money Love

Have you noticed that most of us have an unhealthy emotional relationship with money?
On one hand, we love money because:
we need it for basic necessities like food, shelter and clothing
our financial security and well-being depends on it
it gives us freedom to do whatever we like
it is a powerful tool to help others
On the other hand, we hate money because:
we feel it controls our life
we do not have enough of it
we believe that money changes people and brings out all the negative qualities in them
it forces us to get a job that we hate and robs us of our freedom
This love-hate attitude is very similar to the one we have with food.
A moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips…
When we eat a big piece of cake it gives us a sense of an instant gratification. We truly enjoy the feeling of rich warm chocolate melting in our mouth. Mmmm…
But 10 minutes later, after the cake is gone, the pleasure gives in to bitterness, regret and guilt. The cake we so strongly desired just a few minutes earlier turns into a reminder of our weakness and flabby belly.
Our relationship with money is very similar. We love  the feeling of exchanging it for something we really want! On our way home the “instant gratification” that lies in our shopping bag feels heavy and wonderful! But the next day when our initial excitement wears off a nasty feeling of guilt creeps into our soul. We realize that we have wasted our hard-earned money on something that we did not need in the first place. And we mentally beat ourselves up for our wastefulness.
What if I do not get any?
Thousands of years ago, when supermarkets did not exist, our ancestors had to apply enormous effort to procure their food. The survival principle was very simple – “If you find food – eat it all while you can, because there is no guarantee that tomorrow it will still be there”. Up to this day we all have this hard wired mechanism in our brain that urges us to take it all every time we get the feeling of ’scarcity’.
If someone puts a bowl of chocolates that we like in front of us, we will eat most of them! And we will do it not because we are hungry, but because we can have them now!
The same mechanism is triggered when we hear phrases like “offer is valid till…”, “It’s the last one we have”, “It is selling out really fast”. It triggers a “grabbing reflex” in our brain and we buy without thinking. People who work in advertizing are well aware of this mechanism and actively use it. However, the amazing thing is that even if we are aware of it, it still works!
Bigger is better!
Oversized portions are one of the major reasons why we gain weight. Discounts and “Buy 1 get 1 free” or “Buy 3 for the price of 2” offers are one of the major reasons why we spend so much money buying things that we end up; throwing away, giving  to someone else or keeping in our closets for years to collect dust.
Whenever we add extra stuff to our shopping cart, just because we are offered a “good deal”, we feel like we are getting more value for our “buck”. This perception is, in fact, partly true. We buy more and pay less. However, it is ONLY true if you really need 12 packs of Corn Flakes or two pairs of jeans. In all the other cases you really spend money on the things that have no or very little value to you. This would not be so bad if we had not  taken that money out of our emergency funds, our children’s education or other things that we actually needed to buy.
Three easy steps to improve your relationship with money:
1. Whenever you have the urge to buy something, do not give in to the impulse.
2. Go home. Talk to your family members. Analyze your financial situation.
3. Sleep on it. If the next day you still feel that you have to buy it – so be it! But at least you know that you have made a rational decision about it!

tough money love 2 228x300 The Tough Money LoveHave you noticed that most of us have an unhealthy emotional relationship with money?

On one hand, we love money because:

we need it for basic necessities like food, shelter and clothing

our financial security and well-being depends on it

it gives us freedom to do whatever we like

it is a powerful tool to help others

On the other hand, we hate money because:

we feel it controls our life

we do not have enough of it

we believe that money changes people and brings out all the negative qualities in them

it forces us to get a job that we hate and robs us of our freedom

This love-hate attitude is very similar to the one we have with food.

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Three Money Saving Tips That Will Improve Your Financial Situation In Just One Week

Learn how to save from $20 to $350 in a week.
There are people, who are born with a talent for saving money. They are very rational about spending their money and almost never make impulsive decisions to buy something that they do not really need.  I honestly envy these people. I was born with a different talent, or rather a curse – I am good at spending money.
Since I was little as soon as I got some cash I would always know what I wanted to spend it on. And even if I put some pocket money aside, it would be for the sole purpose of buying something later that I could not afford at that moment.
However, the older I got the more I realized the importance of learning the art of saving and handling money. I was really eager to become less prodigal, but the usual approach “Save on Everything!” did not really work for me. If anything, most of the money saving tips that were out there, while making a lot of sense, would put me in a mild state of depression. Using less shampoo, when washing hair, turning down the thermostat and putting on an extra sweater when I am cold, wearing clothes more than once before washing them, buying only discounted products – all these tips made me feel the lack of money even stronger. And, honestly, by saving a few cents here and there my financial situation did not improve much.
By trying hundreds of different tips I found three that really worked and helped me to get my finances in order. If you are a natural “spender” like me and you are tired of feeling frustrated and guilty, because you are not saving enough money and that your credit card debt is growing every year, use these tips! They will help you to improve your finances in just one week and to become more frugal without having to drastically change your lifestyle.
Forget about “I can’t afford it!” set of mind!
Often when we try to cut back on our expenditures the first thing we tell ourselves is “I can’t afford it!” which basically means “I really want it, but I can’t have it.” This way of thinking creates inner conflict between desire to spend money and common sense that tells you that you should not do so. These conflicting emotions provoke tension, frustration and feeling of guilt.
Forcing yourself not to spend money is just like being on a cabbage soup diet. Sure, you can do it for a week and even a month, but one day you are just going to snap and eat as many hot fudge brownies and French fries as you humanly can. The same behavior is triggered if you keep telling yourself that you can not afford something. Believe me, as soon as you get the chance you will spend most of your savings on something really great, but really useless just to satisfy your hunger for spending money.
Therefore, whenever you have an impulse to buy the next cool thing you see, do not tell yourself that you can afford it. Instead, ask yourself if you truly need it. In reality there are only a few things in our life that we can not live without. I am sure a 48’ flat screen TV or the 25th pair of shoes is not on that list. 
Many self-development programs teach us that in order to have money we need to think like millionaires. This is why the first step to prosperity and debt-free living is in switching your mindset from “I can’t afford it!” to “I don’t need it!”. Can you see the difference? In the first case you concentrate on lack, in the second case – on abundance. This small shift of mindset results in huge changes in your financial situation.
Go cash-only for a week!
A telephone survey from the nationwide Pew Research Center has shown that older people are much more likely than the rest of the adult population to save and invest enough money. Sure, these results may be easily explained by the fact that older people (65 years old and above) are much wiser, rational and more experienced when managing their budget, but that is not the only reason. I believe that older people tend to spend less, just because they are more accustomed to using cash rather than credit cards.
Why would using cash cut our spending? Because when we have to pay with actual money rather than blindly swiping our credit card, we instantly become more conscious about how much we are spending. If you do not believe me, next time try to pay for something that costs over $300 with cash. You will notice that giving away each banknote causes a tiny twinge of pain. This is a good kind of pain. Pain we can use to our advantage.
How does a cash-only week work?
There are only three easy steps.
First of all, make a quick estimation of how much money you expect to spend during the week. I would suggest that you add an extra 10% to your estimated amount, because we often tend to be overly optimistic when it comes to planning our budget.
Second, go to the bank or ATM machine and withdraw this amount of money.
Third, take all the credit and debit cards out of your wallet/purse and hide them somewhere in your desk, to avoid the temptation to use them.  That is it! The only condition of a cash-only week is that you have to stay within your budget. No exceptions! You have a limited amount of money. You can not have more. You need to live off it for a week. If by the end of the week you realize that you have very little money left, it probably means that you will have to cut back on entertainment or eating out.
Find out where your money goes!
It is almost impossible to save money if you do not know three ‘magical” numbers. The first number is how much money you have coming in every week. Most of us can quickly do the math and divide our salary by 4.  The second number is the amount of money that you have going out every week. This is already more challenging $2 for a pack of gum here… $1,5 for a beverage there… we do not even notice how these little payments add up and turn into big bucks over the course of  a week. Finally, the third number that you absolutely must know is your debit minus your credit or the first number (money you get) minus the second number (money you spend) per week. Once you have a clear picture of your incoming money and outgoing money, you will be able to identify areas where you can save.
You can use a personal-finance system like Mint or Quicken, and manually enter your transactions. Or you can carry a little notepad where you write down all of your transactions, just make sure that you do it on a daily basis, because after a while it gets very difficult to keep all the numbers in your head. Do this for a week and afterwards analyze what you are overspending on and what small and easy adjustments you can make to lower your expenditures.
If you apply these three tips without doing anything else, you will begin to notice a few extra hundred dollars on your checking account by the end of the week. Just get into the habit of putting that amount of money into your savings account and promise yourself not to touch it for at least a year. I can not explain you how great it feels to see your savings account rapidly growing with very little effort on your part, so I will just let you discover it on your own. 

piggy bank1 300x218 Three Money Saving Tips That Will Improve Your Financial Situation In Just One WeekLearn how to save from $20 to $350 in a week!

There are people, who are born with a talent for saving money. They are very rational about spending their money and almost never make impulsive decisions to buy something that they do not really need.  I honestly envy these people. I was born with a different talent, or rather a curse – I am good at spending money.

Since I was little as soon as I got some cash I would always know what I wanted to spend it on. And even if I put some pocket money aside, it would be for the sole purpose of buying something later that I could not afford at that moment.

However, the older I got the more I realized the importance of learning the art of saving and handling money. I was really eager to become less prodigal, but the usual approach “Save on Everything!” did not really work for me.

If anything, most of the money saving tips that were out there, while making a lot of sense, would put me in a mild state of depression. Using less shampoo, when washing hair, turning down the thermostat and putting on an extra sweater when I am cold, wearing clothes more than once before washing them, buying only discounted products – all these tips made me feel the lack of money even stronger. And, honestly, by saving a few cents here and there my financial situation did not improve much.

By trying hundreds of different tips I found three that really worked and helped me to get my finances in order. If you are a natural “spender” like me and you are tired of feeling frustrated and guilty, because you are not saving enough money and that your credit card debt is growing every year, use these tips! They will help you to improve your finances in just one week and to become more frugal without having to drastically change your lifestyle.

Forget about “I can’t afford it!” set of mind!

Often when we try to cut back on our expenditures the first thing we tell ourselves is “I can’t afford it!” which basically means “I really want it, but I can’t have it.” This way of thinking creates inner conflict between desire to spend money and common sense that tells you that you should not do so. These conflicting emotions provoke tension, frustration and feeling of guilt.

Forcing yourself not to spend money is just like being on a cabbage soup diet. Sure, you can do it for a week and even a month, but one day you are just going to snap and eat as many hot fudge brownies and French fries as you humanly can. The same behavior is triggered if you keep telling yourself that you can not afford something. Believe me, as soon as you get the chance you will spend most of your savings on something really great, but really useless just to satisfy your hunger for spending money.

Therefore, whenever you have an impulse to buy the next cool thing you see, do not tell yourself that you can afford it. Instead, ask yourself if you truly need it. In reality there are only a few things in our life that we can not live without. I am sure a 48’ flat screen TV or the 25th pair of shoes is not on that list. :)

Many self-development programs teach us that in order to have money we need to think like millionaires. This is why the first step to prosperity and debt-free living is in switching your mindset from “I can’t afford it!” to “I don’t need it!”. Can you see the difference? In the first case you concentrate on lack, in the second case – on abundance. This small shift of mindset results in huge changes in your financial situation.

Go cash-only for a week!

A telephone survey from the nationwide Pew Research Center has shown that older people are much more likely than the rest of the adult population to save and invest enough money. Sure, these results may be easily explained by the fact that older people (65 years old and above) are much wiser, rational and more experienced when managing their budget, but that is not the only reason. I believe that older people tend to spend less, just because they are more accustomed to using cash rather than credit cards.

Why would using cash cut our spending? Because when we have to pay with actual money rather than blindly swiping our credit card, we instantly become more conscious about how much we are spending. If you do not believe me, next time try to pay for something that costs over $300 with cash. You will notice that giving away each banknote causes a tiny twinge of pain. This is a good kind of pain. Pain we can use to our advantage.

How does a cash-only week work?

There are only three easy steps:

  1. Make a quick estimation of how much money you expect to spend during the week. I would suggest that you add an extra 10% to your estimated amount, because we often tend to be overly optimistic when it comes to planning our budget.
  2. Go to the bank or ATM machine and withdraw this amount of money.
  3. Take all the credit and debit cards out of your wallet/purse and hide them somewhere in your desk, to avoid the temptation to use them.  That is it!

Note! The only condition of a cash-only week is that you have to stay within your budget. No exceptions! You have a limited amount of money. You can not have more. You need to live off it for a week. If by the end of the week you realize that you have very little money left, it probably means that you will have to cut back on entertainment or eating out.

Find out where your money goes!

It is almost impossible to save money if you do not know three “magical” numbers:

  • The first number is how much money you have coming in every week. Most of us can quickly do the math and divide our salary by 4.
  • The second number is the amount of money that you have going out every week. This is already more challenging $2 for a pack of gum here… $1,5 for a beverage there… we do not even notice how these little payments add up and turn into big bucks over the course of  a week.
  • Finally, the third number that you absolutely must know is your debit minus your credit or the first number (money you get) minus the second number (money you spend) per week. Once you have a clear picture of your incoming money and outgoing money, you will be able to identify areas where you can save.

You can use a personal-finance system like Mint or Quicken, and manually enter your transactions. Or you can carry a little notepad where you write down all of your transactions, just make sure that you do it on a daily basis, because after a while it gets very difficult to keep all the numbers in your head. Do this for a week and afterwards analyze what you are overspending on and what small and easy adjustments you can make to lower your expenditures.

If you apply these three tips without doing anything else, you will begin to notice a few extra hundred dollars on your checking account by the end of the week. Just get into the habit of putting that amount of money into your savings account and promise yourself not to touch it for at least a year. I can not explain you how great it feels to see your savings account rapidly growing with very little effort on your part, so I will just let you discover it on your own. :)