This weekend I had a very frustrating incident. As I was getting into a taxi, the driver got distracted and started driving off without checking if I had closed the door. Can you imagine my shock when I had one leg inside the car and the car suddenly started moving? I literally jumped inside, but my ankle still got caught in the door. Besides an ugly bruise I got a piece of the driver’s mind about how long it takes for SOME people to get into a car. No “I’m sorry!” No “Are you ok?” Nothing! I am usually good at controlling my temper, but this time all I could think of was how much I want to smack this rude man and give him a piece of my mind about his manners.

Do you often let a rude taxi driver, an uncaring boss, an insensitive co-worker or an arrogant stranger ruin your day? Have you ever wondered why sometimes people purposely say or do mean things?

I could come up with 4 main reasons:

a) They try to overcompensate for their hurt Ego. Someone has hurt them in the past when they felt especially vulnerable and now they are trying to regain their power and self-confidence by hurting you.

b) They secretly fear that they have the same quality that they are making fun of. For example, if a person makes derogatory remarks about someone being overweight, they are most likely insecure about their own body and are afraid that people will notice it too.

c) They are deeply attached to their sufferings and failures. As weird as it may seem, many people refuse to let go of their negativity, because it brings some drama into their life and gives them something to worry about.

d) They crave attention and love. Just like teenagers when reaching a difficult age act out of spite to prove their own independence, adults defy social norms to get attention and a strong emotion out of you (even if it is a negative emotion).

How do you respond to mean people?

I have noticed that there are two spontaneous reactions when it comes to dealing with negative people 1) we get mean and rude back or 2) we let them run all over us while boiling inside with righteous indignation. Neither of these options seems particularly attractive.

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It is just another regular day. You are sitting at work in front of your computer and let us face it… you have reached your limit here. You have not learnt anything new in a long time. If in the beginning of your career you could not wait to get started working on a new project, now you feel that the continuous line of projects has become routine.

You do what you are good at but there is no challenge, no creativity and no excitement. You are considered a “valuable asset” for your company and you make good money. But you are unlikely to get a noticeable pay rise as you always have a cap on your earnings. And the worst thing is that you may know a lot more than your superiors do, but they still “manage” you.

More and more often you think about opening your own business and trying your abilities in a different area. It does sound appealing. Complete financial freedom. No boss and no supervision. Flexible hours and long holidays. Unlimited opportunities. Dreams realized.

But just as there can be many rewards from running your own business, there can also be many pitfalls. The biggest one is that you are risking your own money. So you really want to get it right the first time.

Small businesses do fail. It is a fact. Although there is not any way that you can guarantee that you will excel in running your own business you can greatly improve your odds by becoming well-prepared for the task.

There are ten facts that you must know in order to become a major elite player in any field:

1. Know Exactly What You Want

When setting any goal, be it opening a new venture or taking your existing business to the next level, you should always have a clear picture of where you want to end up before you even start. Your goals direct your actions. The more specific and detailed your goals are the more efficient your actions will be. The faster and easier you will get to the top.

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