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Unusual Statistics That Must Be Read Daily

unusual statistic1 300x199 Unusual Statistics That Must Be Read DailyThere are days in our life, when we feel unloved, unappreciated, sad, frustrated and angry at the whole world. No one (well, maybe except for a few enlightened people) are immune to days like this. And it is ok to let ourselves experience regret, anger, disappointment, and distress. After all we must acknowledge our emotions, instead of suppressing them. But it is not ok to let ourselves stay in this “negative” place for too long.

Here are 10 Statistical Facts that will lift your spirits whenever you are feeling down or simply to remind you how lucky you are:

1. At least 2 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.

It does not matter how old you are to your parents, you will stay their “dear baby, who always looks too thin and works too much”. It does not matter where you are your true friends will never forget you. It does not matter what you wear or how you look to your beloved you will always be beautiful.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

You might not be aware of it, but there are at least 15 people in this world, who love and accept you the way you are. If this number sounds like an exaggeration start counting: your parents, your grandparents, your spouse, your friends, your cousins, aunts, uncles, your favorite teacher, a nice old lady that used to live across the street from you… The list goes on.

3. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before going to sleep.

Every night someone mentions you in their prayers, wishes you happiness and sends you loving thoughts. If you doubt this, it is because you have been too tired or too stressed out to notice them. icon smile Unusual Statistics That Must Be Read Daily

4. At least 2, 000 people are ready to help you whenever you need it.

There are hundreds of forums, social networks, and chats where people that you have never seen in your life will listen to your troubles, support you in your ventures, share their stories with you and give you valuable advice. Do you know why they do it? No, not because they have to kill time at work. It is because they really care about you and sincerely want to help you. It is kind of empowering to know that you have 2,000 people from all over the world ready to help you 24/7, isn’t it?

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You Are Allowed to Be Happy and Still Strive for More

accomplish anything 227x300 You Are Allowed to Be Happy and Still Strive for More Yesterday I was writing a new article when I received a very profound question from Brenda. In response to my article about “being happy in the moment”, she asked, “If we should be content and happy with our life’s lot, why bother setting any goals for a better life?”
Great question! Indeed, if you are already happy with what you have, why strive for more?
Here is how I see it. Right now I am sitting on the balcony with my laptop, enjoying the morning sun on my face and listening to the birds sing. The sweet peas and hyacinths that I planted two weeks ago have finally started sprouting and you can already see the first two leaves (which makes me very excited, because it is a first time I have planted anything).
As you can see things are going pretty good. I am the happiest I can be. But it does not mean that I should not want to improve myself and my life.
For me achievements and happiness are not mutually exclusive concepts, but rather complementary. Answering your question, Brenda, I believe that we should have goals and strive to achieve them, because goals are what keeps us moving forward and gives direction to our life. But as we do it, we should not forget to enjoy and appreciate what we have already been given. For me goals are “preferences”, not “absolute musts”.
If I was asked which ice-cream flavor I like I would say “white chocolate.” But it does not mean that if I was given strawberry flavor I would feel cheated, dissatisfied and upset. That I would demonstratively throw it away, tell my friends how unhappy I was and bear a grudge against the person who gave it to me. I would say “thank you!” and enjoy it just as much.
It is very similar with goals. If you prefer to live in a four-bedroom house, you should voice your desire to the Universe and work towards this goal. But if for now you can only afford a two-bedroom apartment, it does not mean that you should feel disappointed and unhappy with your own life.
Because the house or any other goal has nothing to do with you being happy or being miserable. Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of your affairs or your relationship status.