It is often helpful yet incredibly frustrating to be reminded of how imperfect you are. Don’t you think?

I mean there are tons of things in our life that could be improved. For starters, there are the ten – fifteen extra pounds to be lost. Then there is a credit card debt to be settled, a few childhood issues to be resolved, and possibly a broken heart to be mended.

I do not think there is a single person reading this article, who would not want to change something about them self, their work or their life.

Even now, as I am writing these words there is a voice in the back of my head wondering if I could write this article better?

The truth is I probably could. I could dedicated a few hours to finding a captivating title. Or I could deleted and re-written each phrase several time, until it sounds just right. But I am not going to do this.

Why?

Because this article is not about perfection.

It is about the 3 truths of being imperfect and actually feeling pretty good about it.

Truth #1: Perfection is a myth

We can all sit around and wait for our life to be perfect. Or we can get busy and try to mold our life to our image of perfection. In either case, we are doomed. Because achieving perfection in any area of life – while being a worthy and motivating goal – is a myth.

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“Believe in your dreams and they may come true; believe in yourself and they will come true” – Author Unknown.

Do you believe in yourself and your abilities? Do you feel that you can achieve anything you put your mind to? Do you wake up every day feeling accomplished, confident and great about yourself?

I do not. Sometimes I have writer’s block and I doubt my ability to write anything worth reading. Sometimes I am not sure if I can live up to my goals. And sometimes I simply have a bad day and I doubt that I can do anything to improve it.
Maybe occasionally you have such days too, wishing that you appeared more confident around your colleagues, more outgoing at your friend’s party or more decisive in your actions.

If so, here are 10 Powerful Tips that will help you to boost your self-confidence and hush your negative self-talk whenever you need it:

1. Know your purpose.

When you know your intentions for the day, you have a good reason to feel good about yourself. Without purpose and not knowing what to do, you are likely to feel down. Usually, it gives way to boredom and ends in feeling unworthy because you don’t have anything to look forward to. But, but, but! If you plan and decide, you have a purpose. Pursuing it would be a meaningful act, achieving the same boosts your confidence all the more.

2. Surround yourself with wonderful people.

As much as grumpy, crabby people dampen the spirit, positive people heighten your self-esteem. They are those who would give you support, give you affirmations and help you see the brighter side of life. Yes, they are good source of laughter as well. Kind of like my friends who make me laugh after a really messy crying session.

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Recently, while chatting with a friend, I noticed a paradox – we gladly forgive others their mistakes, but beat ourselves up for our own.

My friend was telling me about being unable to learn programming and having to look for people, who could help her to manage her website. From my point of view it was not a big deal. Not everyone is born to be a programmer. But to her it was the end of the world. She continued repeating how “stupid” she was for not understanding a simple html code. However, when I mentioned that I am not a wizard at programming either, she instantly found several examples to demonstrate to me that I am better than I think I am!

This got me thinking – What if instead of being our worst critic, we become our own best cheerleader?

What if we learn to be more tolerant of our shortcomings and acknowledge our strengths?

Let us take a moment to practice self-appreciation, leaving forced modesty aside!

Take time to think “What is your biggest strength?” and then write down your answer in the comment section below for everyone to see!

Start with “I am…” – be daring!

For example, “I am intelligent”, “I am very determined”, “ I am indispensible, when it comes to handling stressful situations at work”, “I am great at creating relationships with people”.

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