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7 Surprising Benefits of Having a Mentor

father and son 300x189 7 Surprising Benefits of Having a MentorNo matter whether I listen to a lecture given by a Tibetan monk, talk to a Swami who came all the way from India to share his knowledge or attend a workshop organized by a successful marketer – I keep hearing the same advice, “Find a mentor, who will guide your actions and help you to grow spiritually and professionally”. I am guessing that the Universe is trying to tell me something… icon smile 7 Surprising Benefits of Having a Mentor

For the longest time, just like many other people, I underestimated the importance of having a mentor.  After all why look for a specific person, when you can always turn to your parents, friends, colleagues, multiple social networks and even public forums when you need advice and moral support. If like me, you, are wondering why anyone would need a mentor, here are some serious reasons for having one:

1. Valuable experience.

As much as it boosts our ego to think that we are smart and we can “handle everything” and “figure it all out”, sooner or later we might face a problem bigger than we can handle. You would never think of using a trial and error method to neutralize a bomb. Neither would you try to fly a plane for the first time without an instructor. It might not sound very optimistic, but life is infinitely more complicated than plane flying or neutralizing a bomb. There are some situations when too much is at stake and guesswork is simply not an option. In this case a mentor could be the only person, who is knowledgeable and experienced enough to help you make the right decision and prepare you for the serious exam called everyday life.

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Top 9 Ways to Motivate People to Do Their Best

motivate others 300x198 Top 9 Ways to Motivate People to Do Their BestWhether or not you consider yourself to be a leader, you still need to know how to motivate and inspire other people. We often find ourselves in situations, where we have to motivate others, be it talking a friend into joining a gym with us, convincing our future employer that we are the best person for the job or encouraging our co-workers to work on a project.
The real question many of us  ask ourselves is how do you motivate people? How do you encourage them to be the best that they can possibly be?
It is not an easy question. And as in most cases there is no straight answer or secret NLP trick that will work for everyone. There are, however, a few things that I have found helpful when it comes to inspiring people and motivating them into taking action:

1. Be inspired

It may seem strange that the first and the most important step to motivate others is to motivate yourself. Just like fire, enthusiasm is catching. A candle that is not burning cannot light another candle. Similar, if you are not motivated or do not believe in the idea you are sharing with others, they will never be inspired by your words. If you want to inspire others, you have to be their inspiration.

2. Make it look like fun

Do you remember “The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” by Mark Twain”? The main hero, Tom, as a punishment has to whitewash a fence around his aunt’s house. His friends are making fun of him for having to work on a hot sunny day. “What do you call work?”, Tom asks one of the boys“ I don’t see why I oughtn’t to like it. Does a boy get a chance to whitewash a fence every day?” 5 minutes later the boys end up paying Tom for letting them whitewash the fence, while promising to do a great job.
It is all about perspective! If you think about it, there are a few really boring tasks that no motivational speaker on Earth can make sound more appealing. In 99% of cases there is not that much of a difference between hard work or a challenging, yet fun activity, and it is up to you to choose how to present it.

3. Trust people to do a good job

In psychology there is a concept called self-fulfilling prophesies. It has been demonstrated time and again that people’s behavior greatly depends on expectations we place on them.

Top 37 Uplifting Quotes for Any Day!

uplifting quotes 300x211 Top 37 Uplifting Quotes for Any Day!As we struggle with our doubts and daily worries, hearing the wisdom of those who have doubted, struggled, failed and got up again, can inspire us and make our journey called “life” a little bit easier and a little bit brighter!

When you feel that everyday problems are wearing you down and draining your energy, read these wonderful Uplifting quotes! They will help you to regain your mental strength, conquer self-doubts and boost your optimism and courage to move forward! Guaranteed!

1. “There are hundreds of languages in the world, but a smile speaks them all”
- Author Unknown

2. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore.Dream. Discover”
- Mark Twain

3. “All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”
- Henry David Thoreau

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