A Zen student once asked his teacher, “Master, what is enlightenment?”
The master replied, “When hungry, eat. When tired, sleep. When it is time, let go.”
Need ideas of things to let go of?
Here are 5 Things to Stop Caring about today to feel happier tomorrow!
1. Stop Caring If You Are Enough.
The main idea behind it is pretty simple: Whatever goals you would like to achieve, whoever you want to be: You Are Enough.
So often we let other people or situations convince us that this is not true, that we are lacking something. And that this ‘something’ is preventing us from being happy. If we could just be a little taller, thinner, smarter, richer or more attractive, everything would be great. Our problems would magically disappear. Our life would be much easier and more satisfying.
I’ve been there myself and it is not a good place to be. Because if you believe that you are not enough, you will act out of place of fear, of doubt and you will always hold yourself back.
There is no immediate cure for negative beliefs. Learning to love and appreciate yourself takes time. But there is no better use of your time.
2. Stop Caring What Other People Think About Your Goals.
Try the following – tell 10 people that you want to lose 10 pounds by limiting the quantity of red meat that you consume every week and see what happens. Most likely you will get 10 completely different pieces of advice about what you should and should not do. It’s normal. Everyone is different, has different experiences and different opinions about eating habits.
And this particular case is not an exception.
For every goal that you set for yourself, there will be someone trying to talk you out of it. If you listen to every single opinion, you will never start anything worthwhile. Therefore, when you decide to share your goals, share them with people, who can inspire you, contribute to your personal growth and give you a hand!
3. Stop Caring About Showing Your Vulnerability.
Are you embarrassed to cry at movies? Are you worried that if you show people your true emotions, they may take advantage and hurt you in some way? In our western culture being vulnerable is often associated with weakness. But it is an absurd notion.
Vulnerability is a base for love, compassion, trust, creativity and self-acceptance. If you have come to believe that it is not okay to feel or demonstrate certain emotions, you are denying yourself the pleasure of truly experiencing life.
4. Stop Caring About What Other People Have.
It is an inner game that our mind plays when there is nothing better to do – How much does this guy make a month? What does he find in his girlfriend? Why are they buying a new TV when they already have one?
I know that we might be curious, but seriously why should we care? It is not going to make OUR life richer in any way. If anything, it will keep us chasing after things we don’t need only to say “Hey, I have more than this guy”.
5. Stop Caring About Illusion of Perfection.
My math professor at college used to have a saying “Good is better than perfect”. At that time it seemed like some under-achiever motto.
What about setting high personal standards? What about doing an excellent job and giving 101% all the time? What about running an extra mile, persisting longer, raising the bar?
It’s all good… as long as we know how to keep our perfectionism at bay.
I have a friend, who is one of the most knowledgeable people on the topic of coffee. He actually gets frequent calls from different restaurants asking him to teach their staff proper coffee preparation. He must be really good at what he does, because his current website has one page containing basic contact information.
What people don’t know is that there is another ‘hidden’ website dedicated to coffee that has amazing graphics, and over 800 really good articles. It is too bad that no one can find it as this great information is officially closed to the public. Why? My friend believes that it can be further improved!
The harsh truth is that perfectionism does not pay off. The real world rewards people who get things done, not ones who strive to do things perfectly. And the only way to get anything done is make peace with the thought that “Good is better than perfect”.
So if you notice certain perfectionist tendencies, don’t let them turn into an excuse for not finishing things. It is much easier to learn from the outcome and improve, than to get something ‘perfect’ the first time.
Are there any things that you feel you should stop caring about?