Is there even such a thing as “Rules of Happiness”? I believe so. The #1 Rule in my happiness agenda is “Living my life in the happiest way I can while trying my best not to cause unhappiness to anyone else.”
Because every single person on the Planet has the right to be happy, and you are not an exception. Happiness is our natural state and we strive to achieve and hold onto it for as long as we can. Happiness comes in small and spontaneous bursts of joy.
It dawns on us as a sense of accomplishment, when we realize we have completed every single task on our to-do list. It is reflected in the silly smile on our face when we are in love. It shines back at us in the eyes of our parents on our graduation day.
Happiness comes in so many forms, shapes and sizes. But it is not a passive feeling that simply comes and goes. Above all, happiness is also a choice.
Even when things are not going according to the plan, we have the right to choose to be happy. Even when we have to face occasional setbacks and failures, we have the right to choose how to react to them. Even when we have to deal with difficult people, we have the right not to let them get to us and respond with kindness.
Is it always easy? Of course not! But it is DO-ABLE.
If fact, here are some rules of happiness that have been proven to lift your spirits and boost your happiness almost instantly.
5 Realistic Rules of Happiness to feel GREAT:
G – Give
It almost seems counter-intuitive; to imagine that giving (rather than receiving) can be one of the first and most important rules of happiness. In our culture, happiness is often associated with grand, luxurious and very expensive “things” like private jets, 10-bedroom villas and shiny Ferraris and Maseratis.
And while many multi-millionaires ask themselves why they are not any happier than they were 10 years ago, you and I know the truth.
Happiness doesn’t come in loads of ‘stuff’. It actually comes in very small and very random acts of kindness. Because when you give freely, when you help another person without expecting anything in return, this is when your heart sings and a warm fuzzy feeling spreads through your body.
R – Relate to people
No man is an island and we all need other people to exchange our ideas, share our feeling and feel their support when times get tough. Psychologists only now confirm what many of us knew all along – friendship and satisfying personal relationships have a much bigger effect on our happiness than our income does.
So if you want to make the best investment of all – invest in building and maintaining strong, happy relationships with people that you like.
E – Exercise
I’ve mentioned many times before the benefits of exercise and spending time outdoors. An increased sense of happiness and well-being is one of them. Not only does regular exercise trigger the release of dopamine known as a “feel-good” hormone, it also keeps us fitter, healthier and more energized.
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that it is much easier to stay happy when you are healthy and full of energy, versus out of shape, tired and slightly lightheaded from sitting for hours in front of a computer.
If you want to feel happier, take this Rule of Happiness close to heart and start exercising. Or better yet, grab a friend and go biking, jogging or play tennis together.
A – Appreciate
A feeling of appreciation is closely linked to optimism. At the end it is all about your ability to see the positive – something you can be grateful for – in every situation.
Many studies show that people who appreciate themselves, others and the world they live in experience a higher level of positive emotions and life satisfaction than those, who don’t experience a sense of gratitude.
If you want a more metaphysical explanation, think of the Law of Attraction and the power of thoughts. The more you concentrate on the positive, the more positive energy you attract into your life, the more reasons you have to be grateful. It really is THAT simple.
T – Try New Things
Maybe you are the type of person who gets goose bumps at a thought of letting routine take over your life. But most people, myself included, actually like their routines for the sense of stability and order that they bring into our day-to-day life.
After all, if we did not like routines, it would not be so hard for us to step out of our comfort zone or change our old habits. But the truth is that trying new things, meeting new people, learning new skills and embracing new experiences is what makes our life richer, happier and more exciting!
What are your thoughts?